Congratulations on your engagement! There’s a whirlwind of things to accomplish before you walk down the aisle. Depending on who you are, you’re likely to have a few events leading up to the big day: bridal showers, couple’s showers, engagement parties…there’s a lot going on. At the heart of everyone’s mind who will attend these events to celebrate you: “What do I get them?” That’s why having a wedding registry is so important.
I’m such an advocate for a wedding registry. If you don’t have one, then you end up with a lot of nonsense. The proper protocol is to show up to an event with a gift, so the more events you have without a registry, the more likely you are to receive excessive nonsense.
It’s becoming increasingly common where people don’t have registries. Maybe they’ve lived together for a couple of years and don’t really need anything. In this day and age, there are plenty of options. I’ve seen people register for their honeymoon (though you won’t see me ever recommend that).
Tip #1: Have items that apply to all price points.
Generally, you should have registries at anywhere from one to three stores. You’ll have a variety of different situations, so you want to be sure that there’s something for everyone. You should have a variety of items under $25, under $50, and then your “higher end” items. I made this handy gift guide for gift givers, so keep it in mind.
Price Conscious Stores
- Bed, Bath & Beyond
- Crate & Barrel
- Williams Sonoma
- Pottery Barn
- West Elm
- Sur La Table
Your higher end stores are essentially going to be any sort of specialty store. There are also, of course, high-end items available at most of these retailers as well.
Tip #2: Don’t add it to your wedding registry if you don’t need it.
Just because you’re getting married doesn’t mean you need a china set. If you’re not a baker, you certainly don’t need a springform pan and bundt pan. If you wouldn’t spend money on it, don’t ask your friends and family to.
Tip #3: Shop with your partner.
Registries are not a one woman show. Remember, these items are what your friends and family will purchase for you and your partner to start building your life together. If you’re registering for decor, make sure it’s something you’ll both love an appreciate. If you’re getting a little carried away with the scanner, it’s nice to have your future spouse there to help.
In the end, proceed cautiously when you’re building your perfect wedding registry. Put yourself in the shoes of your friends and family, and move forward with your future spouse.
Congratulations on your engagement, and here’s to many happy years together!