Yesterday was National Friendship Day, so what better topic to cover this month than talking about being a friend? As I “get older” and grow up, I realize that having a few fierce friends is so much more valuable than sprinkling my life with acquaintances. In friendships, like all relationships, you can only get out of it what you put into it.
It so important with friends to be sure you lift each other up. Especially as females, we can get so caught up in trying to prove ourselves or make ourselves feel better that we may compromise some positivity toward others. If you’re a real friend, you’ll help those around you.
Once you’ve found friends…true friends…hold on to them. You’ll come to learn that, no matter the distance or situation, these true friends will be there for you, wherever “there” is.
You want those friends that make you feel better. You want those who lift you up and lighten your life just by their presence in it. Stay with those people.
Don’t forget to thank your friends too! If you’ve been going through a hard time (breakup, job trouble, a move, etc.), chances are that you’ve had really fantastic people in your life encouraging you through it. Don’t take advantage of this. Show your appreciation as a fellow friend. This is also true for those friends in your life who were there but may not be any more. Everyone is in your life for a reason.
Real friends are going to look past superficial trouble. There are some friends who will wallow with you in your hard time, but real friends are the ones who will look past the tough and make you smile instead.
Being a girl, it’s easy to get caught up in the cattiness of being around other girls. Surround yourself with fierce women who make YOU feel better, who you enjoy building up as well.
As silly as this is, it’s true. Throughout school years, you go through so many friends. How many can you look back in your 25 years and still say “Yeah, they’re still one of my closest friends.”? I can think of four off the top of my head, all with really fantastic stories for how we became and stayed friends in the first place.
Again, you reflect what you put out there. If you’re faithful and loyal to your friends, they’ll return the favor. If they don’t, then they probably aren’t the type of friend you want in your life.
There are four people in my life that I foresee myself always being friends with. Through different colleges, cities, jobs, moves, etc., I know that I can call on them (and they on me) and they would be there for me. There was a time when I wasn’t friends with each of them, and I don’t ever want to return to that.
Fierce lady friendships. Enough said.
I’ve been very blessed in my life with really fantastic friends. Every person who has been in my life has marked me somehow, whether they know it or not. I hope that you take the chance to step back and look at, not only what friends you have, but also the kind of friend that you are.