Maid of Honor Duties No One Remembers

Being a Maid of Honor is a huge accomplishment and moment to be proud of. It means that you have successfully developed a friendship with another girl so well that she wants you by her side on her wedding day. That, or you’re extremely organized, and the bride knows she can count on you for anything.

Everyone remembers the pretty standard requirements of being a Maid of Honor at a wedding:

  • Don’t upstage the bride.
  • Hold her bouquet during the ceremony.
  • Fix the train for pictures.
  • Give a speech.
  • Coordinate a bachelorette party.
  • Don’t forget the ring(s).

The list goes on and on. You’re an important part of the day for both the bride and groom. Yes, they may have a wedding coordinator, but they pay him/her. They’re not paying you to help, which means that they’re expecting you to know what your purpose is.

However, there’s a whole list of duties that no one tells you the first time you’re involved in this pivotal role. I’m here to help. Some of these are goofy, but you should be ready for all of them.

  • Help the bride go to the bathroom. Both as a MOH and an event assistant, I’ve had to help the bride use the restroom. You’ve got to hold a lot of dress or even the bride herself.
  • Feed them! Goodness, everyone always forgets to eat the day of the wedding. The bride most likely has some nervous jitters leading up to the ceremony and didn’t eat. Then, she gets to the reception where there’s (most likely) alcohol to drink and guests to see. Make sure that the bride (and the groom) sit down and eat. Also, if the bride hasn’t worked it out with the caterers, see if they can put together a “honeymoon basket” for them (AKA leftovers).
  • Know the bustle. If a bride has a significant train on her dress, she’s probably getting a bustle to tuck it all in for the reception. There are a few different bustles to worry about. If you get a chance, go to the bride’s last dress fitting or play with the bustle before the ceremony.
  • Getaway bag. Make sure your bride has a “getaway bag”. Whether they’re in the car for a lap around the block back to the hotel, or they’re driving to an airport, the bride is going to want a change of clothes and some makeup wipes. You can put this in the car at the start of the day, or give it to an event planner to take care of as the day goes on.

The most important thing to remember is that you really aren’t that special on the bride’s wedding day. Yes, you do get to stand the closest to her in pictures and such, but it’s your ultimate goal to do whatever you can for her on that day. Do your feet hurt, but the bride wants to dance? You best believe you’re on that dance floor. Are you hungry, but the bride needs to pee? You’re going to ask the person next to you to watch your plate while you go help her.

Above all else, just love your bride. You’re sisters or friends or family. This is a special day for her, but also an excuse for you to show her just how much she means to you and how much you want her to be happy. Smile big, hold back the happy tears, and go kill it as the Maid of Honor.

Title photo by Daniel Lee on Unsplash.

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